Home Buying with Your Head, Not Your Heart: Why Patience Pays in a Trend-Driven Market

Real estate isn’t just about bricks and mortar — it’s about human behavior. Just like fashion trends or fitness crazes, housing markets flare up, peak, and cool down, driven as much by psychology as by economics. Understanding this can help buyers make smarter, more strategic decisions.

2017: The Over-Ask Era

I remember finishing a CrossFit class when I overheard a conversation. A woman had finally secured a home after losing out on several offers. Her friend asked, “How much over asking did you pay?” With a mix of pride and relief, she said, “$110,000.” Back then, paying far above the list price wasn’t shocking — it was expected.

2021: The Pandemic Frenzy

Fast forward to late 2021. I was hosting an open house at a vacant property and looked outside at the lineup: 50 groups of buyers, patiently waiting with masks on, inching forward under COVID restrictions. Each hoped to get into a market that seemed unstoppable. Bidding wars weren’t the exception — they were the rule.

2025: The Cool-Down

Now, the market looks very different. A home in my own neighbourhood has lingered on and off the market for months without selling. The frenzy has cooled, lineups are gone, and market reality has returned.

What Drives a Hot Housing Market?

It’s tempting to blame mortgage rates alone — low rates encourage buying, high rates slow it down. But the full picture is more complex:

·         Economics: Low mortgage rates, limited housing supply, and growing populations push demand.

·         Psychology: Fear of missing out (FOMO) drives buyers to act quickly, while herd mentality keeps pushing prices higher.

·         Media Influence: Headlines amplify urgency, making housing the hottest topic everywhere — from coffee shops to social media feeds.

The Power of Social Proof

Trends don’t spread in isolation — they rely on social proof:

·         When a celebrity buys a luxury home, it sparks aspiration, making buying seem timely.

·         When someone in your circle — a savvy investor or a colleague “who always knows” — makes a purchase, it legitimizes the trend.

Early adopters give everyone else “permission” to follow. Suddenly, buying a home isn’t just a financial decision — it’s a social event of the season.

Human Nature, FOMO, and Greed

Housing markets move on emotion as much as math. We buy because our neighbour bought, sell because our cousin did, and hold because the headlines say values will only rise. FOMO sparks the frenzy, and greed keeps the fire burning — often long after warning signs appear.

Right now, the frenzy has cooled. Mortgage rates are higher, home values have reset, and buyers are taking a step back. Historically, those who act during a market lull — the early adopters — often come out ahead when the next wave rolls in.

How to Buy Smart in Today’s Market

If you’re ready to get in at what could feel like the “ground floor” before values rise again:

1.      Connect with a mortgage broker for pre-approval.

2.      Partner with a full-time local realtor who knows your neighbourhood.

3.      Make decisions with your head, not your heart.

Leave the FOMO to others. Buy smart. Buy with your head.